Listen Ladies, This Is Why Men Cheat In Relationships (Don’t Ignore No. 6)

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Some people have tried severally to really understand why men who seem happy in a relationship go ahead to cheat. See all the details you need to know about here.

A relationship expert and counselor, Dr Kamal Khurana has revealed top reasons why men cheat in relationships you should know about and how to tackle the issue.

1. Disturbance in the marriage as the primary reason
When there are regular fights at home with his wife, which are left unresolved, a pattern sets in wherein he continues to be unhappy and ‘disturbed’. In this kind of a scenario, either he can fight or he can flee. When he looks for an affair, he is looking to flee from dealing with the issues in the marriage, and be comfortable with that ‘other person’. It is telling oneself that the problems do not affect anyone and life can continue in a better way with a parallel support.

2. Cheating men report boredom led to the affair
Some men may find the routine of a married life to be tedious and dull. These men find it easier to shift dominance or primacy to another relationship and feel the spark outside to be a thrilling option; instead of finding ways of charging their marriage. It becomes present moment for gratification versus the hard job that they will have to do in their marriage to resolve an issue. The extra-marital relationship provides them with a readymade and fresh experience, which is appealing enough to take the risk.

3. Cheating men love to experiment s*xually
S*x has always been and will always be an integral part of a marriage. While some men are quite content spending the rest of their lives having s*x with the same wife for many years, others prefer to experiment more as a need, rather than as an option. They want to sleep with many women, many times, and therefore do not think twice before an extra-marital alliance. It perhaps makes them feel s*xually powerful and more adept than others.

4. Cheating men are emotionally dissatisfied
When their wives are too busy with their own lives, working or bringing up children or even looking after in-laws and parents, emotionally, men are left high and dry. But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they’re appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they’re trying to get things right. Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked. Sometimes the couple may not be compatible so however much the wife may do, the man will always find something to complain about.
It may also happen that the woman he cheats with is his co-worker or boss, someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts. That’s another reason why it’s so critical that he feel valued at home.

5. Cheating men have a history of EMR
Some men, in their childhood, may have witnessed cheating in their parent’s marriage. This somewhere gives them a message that it is okay to cheat, even though deep inside they know this is wrong. All of us learn from our parents, so taking the risk is good enough. This acquired learning also happens through cheating resorts taken by elder siblings, neighbours, peer group and everybody who has been impacted. Sometimes as teenagers and young adults, some men have had multiple relationships, these men either intentionally or accidentally end up going back to their ex-girlfriends. The other lot goes back to their past style of having multiple relationships. It is well said, what a mind thinks, achieves. So there are females also who are either consciously or unconsciously looking for such men.

6. Cheating men have wives who cheat
Men also take revenge with their cheating wives, by having multiple relationships themselves. Even if their wives are guilty and come accept their extra-marital relationships, some men continue with their tricks. This is mostly done by men who don’t want to forgive their spouses.

7. Cheating men think it to be ‘divorce’
Some men are willfully adulterous and use it as a means for acquiring divorce. The law also considers adultery as a fair ground for the wife to seek a divorce. The man is cheating openly and is in a non-receptive mood, taking the wife’s feelings of frustration to an all-time high. Although this percentage is less but it is there.

8. Cheating men need to be needed
When men feel that they are not needed by their wife anymore, they look out for some other woman, who can understand them and make them feel special. As an obvious outcome of a new relationship, they get that feeling from the other woman. And suddenly when they are showered with attention, which they haven’t received in a very long time in their marriage, they toss their hands in the air and get deep into the new hot and happening relationship.

Beware! These Are 5 Dangerous Signs You’re About To Cheat On Your Partner

There are certain signs that can reveal if you are bound to cheat on your partner soon or not. These are some of those signs.
 
Most of us aren’t born wanting to cheat on our spouses. We all walk down the aisle (most of us anyway) with visions of monogamy and love dancing in our heads, sure that this union — our union — will be the one to beat the odds.
Sadly, not all of us will live up to those hopes and ideals. If 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and 50 per cent of victims are spouses of infidelity, then there are a whole lot of Cheat!ng spouses out there. But who are they? What are the signs that a person is about to cheat? What are the signs that you are about to cheat? We asked various women who cheated on their spouses to explain what drove them to it and culled their answers into a list of five signs you are about to cheat on your man.
1. Your s*x life has dwindled:
A lot of the women said that between the stress of raising children and the stress of working, they were having $ex less and less. Eventually, some guy c@ught their eye and boom! They were the cliched housewife sleeping with their personal trainers. Oops!
2. He was your only one:
“I was 24 when I got married to my husband just out of college,” says one anonymous source. “I never slept with anyone but him.” This led to her being curious, and curiosity… well, it sometimes kills cats and other times it leads to affairs. She and her husband made it through, but a better way to handle those feelings would have been to be open in the first place. “Once we talked about it, I knew he felt the same way, too. He may have even let me have a free pass if I’d asked. Instead, I almost caused a divorce.”
3. You crave compliments:
Sometimes when you’ve been together for a long time, the compliments just kind of stop coming. For many women, that leads to seeking compliments — and other things — elsewhere. Is that his fault? No. But really, compliments are good. Keep them up.
4. You want revenge:
One woman cheated because her husband cheated. Another because her husband was a gambler who left them in financial ruin. “I was so pissed, it made sense at the time,” said the gambler’s wife. They eventually divorced.
5. You are feeling neglected:
We’ve ALL been there, right? Our husbands are busy and driving us crazy. We are busy and focused on the kids, and all of a sudden, we start to feel like it’s been years since they’ve said what a good job we’re doing or how much they love us. Been there. This is the reason a lot of women end up in bed with another man.
Stop it before it gets there! Talk to him. Tell him what you need.

Ladies, These Are 8 Things Men Want You To Do To Them In Bed…Don’t Joke With No. 6

There are certain things men want the ladies to do while in bed to spice up the exhilarating moment. These are some of them.
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Contrary to popular belief, guys aren’t satisfied with just getting laid. They want it to be good and exciting too. I know — so demanding. But I aim to please and with that in mind, I convinced a couple of guys I know to confess what they really wish women did more of in the sack.
1. Tell Him What To Do:
This was the most common request from the guys I talked to — they’re dying for a little instruction. Guy parts are different from girl parts and sometimes they need to hear what you want. “A lot of the time, mind and body reading is the only way to know what a woman wants,” said one dude. “That’s an art that young men like myself are working on but won’t be able to perfect without some direction or just lots of trial and error.” Likewise, another hunky male friend of mine said, “Every girl is a little different about what they like, how they like it, and at what frequency and pressure. It’s okay to just shout out ‘Hey! Put your tongue here!’ It helps everybody.”
2. Leave A Little Hair:
For now, B.razil has won the pubic battle, but some guys don’t want going bare to win the war. “Too many women are too bald,” said one guy. “There are lots of guys that like the ’70s P0rn star look. Goddamn, I’ll take a ’70s P0rn star — who actually looks like a real woman — over a contemporary P0rn star — who looks like a plastic cyborg Barbie — any day.” Just a sec, I need to replace my waxer’s number in my phone with this guy’s digits.
3. Channel Your Inner Truck Driver:
While you’re telling him what you want him to do and how to do it, get a little filthy with your vocabulary. “I love it when women use any combination of the words ‘c**k, p**sy, wet, come, and all over,’” said one potty-mouthed hottie.
4. Swallow:
I would explain this one further, but my mouth is full.
5. Mast*rbate:
I’ll admit it. I kind of like watching a dude jerk off, but sometimes they’re shy about it. Likewise, gals can be bashful about diddling in front of their man — don’t be. Dudes like to watch. Rubbing one out for his viewing pleasure also gives him visual instruction to go along with the verbal mentioned in #1.
6. Rub Him Everywhere Else Too:
“I would seriously love the occasional back rub or any unsolicited massage,” said Derek. Yes, his p*nis is his number one erogenous zone. But don’t neglect his less boneriffic parts — a back rub shows you care abouthim, not just getting him off.
7. Be Open-Minded:
“Humor us when we want to try something you think is different or weird,” said Tom. “Don’t immediately say no and dismiss it. We’re boys, we’re curious and chances are we’ll try it once and lose interest anyways.” That’s not to say you should give up anal if you absolutely hate it, but if he’s interested in playing with handcuffs or role-playing, for example, don’t automatically dismiss the idea as him being pervy.
8. Don’t Hold Back:
With the exception of being on top, most standard $exual positions put the dude in the driver’s seat, in that they’re doing all the thrusting — but that is not any excuse for just lying there. “If you want to be on top, get on top,” said Paul. “If you want it to be more rough, get rough with us. We don’t mind doing the work, but we don’t want to be the only ones who put in the effort.”
Now that we’ve read through that laundry list of requests, what do you wish men did more of in the sack?
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Ladies, Don’t Be Deceived! 10 Ways To Tell If Your Man Is LYING To You Or Not

Being in a relationship means putting a whole lot of faith in someone who was, at one point, a total stranger to you. It’s all a bit terrifying when you really think about it.

So can you ever really tell what someone’s thinking and feeling, or if they’re being truly honest with you?

Basically, no, is what we’ve learnt. But there are some clues in someone’s behaviour as to how they really feel and whether they’re being honest. Here’s what to look out for…

1. Nil by mouth

Any attempt to cover their mouth – however apparently subconscious – could well be a sign that they’re uncomfortable with what they’re saying or hiding something from you.

2. Jesus takes the wheel

If your other half is suddenly spouting religious phrases like ‘I swear to Jesus’ or ‘God no’, then they may be trying to hard to cover something up.

3. The disappearing act

Watch their hands. Are they trying to make them disappear, possibly into their pockets, behind their backs or under their legs? If yes, this could be a sign that they’re hiding more than just their palms.

4. The key is in the detail

A common misconception about cheats and liars is that they can’t provide detail about their lie, but actually, they may go into too much detail. If they can’t stop talking and appear to be saying things as they occur to them, it might be that it’s all fabricated.

5. The eyes have it

You know your partner best. Are they finding it more difficult than usual to maintain eye contact? Then they could be feeling guilty. And if they’ve fixed an unusually strong stare on your eyes, they could be doing so in an effort to try to control your opinion of them.

6. Timing is everything

If there are noticeable pauses before they answer questions, they could be buying themselves time to think of a response. Equally, answering too soon and speaking quickly is an indication that they’re desperately trying to convince you of something.

7. Repetition, repetition, repetition

If they repeat more than one of your questions, they’re probably using the time to think of a reasonable answer.

8. They’re suddenly really honest

Are they suddenly being super honest but about something that you’re not actually asking them about? For example, you question who they had dinner with this evening and they’re more concerned with apologising for how much they spent on the dinner than discussing who they ate with. They’re trying to deflect attention by admitting to a lesser offence.

9. Pinocchio syndrome

Very strange but true: when lying, some people’s nasal tissues engorge, causing their noses to itch. So an unexplained sniff could give away more than you think…

10. Examine the evidence

And finally… take a step back and try to look at it objectively: ask yourself whether you’d believe their story if it was one of your friends’ partners. If it now sounds implausible, then it probably is.

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Hi Ladies! Here are 3 Reasons Why Guys Are Scared Of Commitment In Relationships

If you are wondering why your loving boyfriend is holding himself back from committing to you or even proposing marriage, these 3 reasons might answer your question.
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It’s a common thing to hear women say; ‘this guy is childish’, or ‘that guy is irresponsible’ just because the said guy is yet to make up his mind about what he really wants.
You say, ‘look at him, he has all there is to have, but he does not want to settle down, he does not want to commit.’
People tell you, your friends can’t shut up about how good you look together, yet, bros has still not said anything and you’re starting to lose your cool.
What you [ladies] fail to realise when making these assertions is that, a guy who is looking to ‘commit’ in the real sense of the word will proceed cautiously because he wants to be sure to get things right and will not commit until he feels good enough to do so.
If you are wondering why he’s holding himself back from committing to you, though, these 3 reasons might answer your question.
1. Ghost of girlfriends past
The shadow of mistakes or wounds from past relationships is the number one reason why men shy away from commitments.
Men are naturally structured to absorb pain better than women, and are therefore less likely to go do a thread on Twitter, detailing their hurt, after suffering a heartbreak.
Do not be fooled, though. Women break guys’ heart all the time, too, and the fact that we don’t hear much of it does not mean it does not happen.
If a guy has had his heart shattered, do not expect him to be keen on having a repeat of the experience.
2. Unwilling to let go of their freedom
As you might have guessed already, a lot of guys worry that a committed relationship will mean the end of their freedom.
I know many ladies reading this will be fuming, or shaking their heads in disgust, saying something about how men are just irresponsible and all.
That might be true, but what is also true is that everyone deserves to live life at their pace.
Let him get used to the fact that his time is not just his anymore, and that he will be sharing a lot of himself with someone else now.
When he’s cool with that, he’ll be ready commit. Till then, keep calm.

3. He might be worried about you
You are so concerned about getting him to commit to you that you never even thought you might be the problem.
Look inwards; what if there’s something about you that’s not right, something putting him off?
You know, you might not want to admit it to yourself, but the reason why he’s not committing yet could just be… YOU.
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Hi Guys! Here Are The Best Times To Ask A Girl Out & Get A YES Fast!

If you have ever been wondering the best and appropriate time to ask that girl you have been longing to date out and get a YES faster than usual? You’d find this article helpful.
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From experiences, the most appropriate time to ask a girl out is during festive periods or special celeB.ration. Here are the most tested and proven ways to ask a girl out and get YES on time.
1. Christmas/new year: 
If you ask a girl out during this period and you are fully loaded, you can’t go wrong. This is the only period since the birth of Jesus and even before creation that girls display their i am available placards. This period is ranked no. 1 throughout the length and breadth of planet earth. May its because of the festive nature synonymous to sharing of gifts and other goodies, or could it be as a result of the public holidays where every one want to go to those exciting places they have always dreamed of, with any available guy that approaches a girl during this period, you are damn sure to get a yes quickly.
2. Valentine:
February is a popular and special date that rings a bell in the ears of any young girl, this is the day set aside for lovers all around the world to show love in amazing ways to their spouses, but for the sharp guys, they it’s the best time to ask a girl out, because girls naturally love competing within themselves, so not going out or having a boo on this day would tag you as a lose, so many of these high class girls that are unapproachable during the middle of the year of all a sudden activates their humble and friendly part that’s if you have the money to spend anyways.
3. Easter: 
Easter might not sound too bubbling to some people but do i need to remind you that easter is all about love, that the saviour Jesus died on the cross because of his love for the world. Well thats a punch line right there. Asking a girl out during this period is a little cheaper cos unlike the vals and the Christmas, you spend this periods with basically dates and outings and little gifts. But you are damn sure to get a quick yes!
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Ladies, Be Wise! These Are 10 Reasons Why You Should Travel With A Guy Before You Marry Him

Getting to travel with your man before you finally get tied to him for the rest of your life is very important for these reasons.
If you get the opportunity to travel with your guy, before you get married, then jump at that chance, because it’s the perfect way to really find out what he is like. You get to see what he’s like under pressure, how he deals with unfamiliar situations and you find out what it’s like living with him 24 hours a day. So, book that vacation now, before you tie the knot, because here are ten good reasons why you should:
1. Travelling can bring out the best and the worst in people
People just let themselves go more on vacation and that can highlight both the good and the bad in people. You’ll be able to see him with his guard down and that might either confirm your worst fears or cement your love for him.
3. You’ll be able to see how he treats other people
Does he snap his fingers at the waiters and complain all the time or is he more tolerant and patient? Some people behave appallingly on vacation, because they think that no one will see them. It’s a good way to get a picture of his true personality.
4. You will see how he copes with being out of his comfort zone
When you travel away from home, you will be in unfamiliar surroundings and without your usual support network. This will show how well he copes with awkward situations and also how well you work together as a team.
5. You’ll find out more about his habits
When you share the close proximity of a hotel room with someone you will certainly get to know them better. You’ll also get to see all his personal habits and some of them might come as a bit of a surprise!
6. You will see how he reacts under pressure
Planes get delayed, hotel rooms aren’t always up to scratch and you will probably forget to pack some things, so now’s the time you really see how he reacts, when things go a wrong. It will be far better to find out now that he has a short fuse than finding out after the wedding day.
7. You will figure out how generous he really is
A vacation is also a good time to find out how generous he is. You can watch to see how generously he tips and how hard he haggles down the price with street vendors. You might also be able to gauge his reaction to those less well off than him, such as street beggars.
8. You’ll find out how adventurous he is
You’ll also find out how willing he is to try out new things. Will he try the local cuisine and learn a bit of the language? Or will he head straight for the nearest McDonalds and complain that the locals don’t understand him?
9. You’ll learn more about his likes and dislikes
With no work to occupy him, you’ll really be able to learn what he likes to do with his free time. Does he like action packed adventure, or is he more happy snoozing on the beach? You’ll also find out how good he is at compromising, when you want to do different things from him.
10. You’ll find out if he will drive you mad!
A two week vacation is far from a lifetime, but it does provide with an excellent opportunity to decide if you really can live with this guy. So, if you find that, when you get home, you’re glad it’s all over, you are going to have a lot of serious soul searching to do!

Must Read! 31 Things That Will Make Your Marriage Sweet

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Character is marriage, marriage is character. Success or failure of marriage is a function of character. Most times bad character destroys marriage more than any other thing in life.

Below are the things that will make your marriage work and sweet:

1. Understanding. Understanding is an inevitable tool for every woman that wants to live with her husband throughout a life-time in marriage. Living with a man requires high level of understanding of the make gender and understanding is a deliberate character that needed to be built by a woman who want to succeed in marriage. Don’t just act like every other woman, take time to understand why men act the way they do, understand marriage, love, s*x, in-laws, crisis management, parenting and financial management

2. Perseverance. Perseverance means continued steady effort to achieve an aim in spite of difficulty. This is a character which every woman should develop in order to make their marriage work. At times, the husband may be heady, difficult, beats, maltreat you, your in-laws may pose as a threat to you in that marriage, there may be delay in childbirth, and all these challenges should not force you to quit your marriage. Rather, persevere. Don’t surrender your marriage to pressure, you will soon overcome.

3. Teachability. No matter your age, academics qualification or exposure life, you must be humble enough to be taught by your husband. Even if you think you know more than him, listen to him, allow yourself to be corrected and don’t be stubborn. Men generally love women with teachable spirit. Diligently work on yourself to develop teachable character in life. Tick

4. Homelineness. There’s no home until there is somebody in it to bring it alive. To have an excellent marriage, you must be homely. Create the time to be at home. Avoid constant traveling and any job that takes your weekend or that cause you to close late daily. Must man detest it when their wife travels a lot and close late. If you don’t have adequate time for your husband and children, you may not be intimate with your husband because intimacy takes time and you stand the risk of losing your husband to any available lady around him. Close early just to be with your spouse, you may lose your job but you must not lose your marriage. As a wife, you are like a light in that home, when you are not there, everywhere looks boring. So close early and light up your marriage.

5. Friendliness. “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly”. Proverbs 18:24a. Successful marriage is a friendship taken so deep. Consciously make yourself likeable and lovable. Don’t be too ‘serious’ have a friendly look. A good welcoming look, welcoming smiles and character will get your husband attracted to you. No man will want to be with a frowning, stubborn and contentious wife. Be friendly in your speech, actions and reactions. Strange women normally demonstrate high level on friendliness to win other people’s husband. As a woman, demonstrate friendliness to retain your husband.

6. Humility. It is an essential character to build a successful marriage. Relate and speak with all humility. Humility will get you attached to your spouse while pride will make you repulsive to him. Come down, bow down to your husband if you want him to stick to you forever. Humility and submissive wives don’t get beaten by their husbands. Be humble enough to take to correction. Be humble enough to allow your husband to speak while you listen to him. It takes a humble woman to win the heart of her husband.

7. Positive Thinking. Positive thinkers don’t get negative results. Think positively about your marriage, it will not break; strange women will not push you out. Your marriage will last. Think positively about your husband he will jilt you; stop thinking about malice, retaliation or vengeance. Think well of him and he will treat you well.

8. Boldness. It takes boldness to take bold steps and it takes steps to get greater results. You need boldness to become a successful merchant/career woman in order to supplement the family finance. You need boldness to stand and fight for your marriage when the strange women were troubling you. It takes boldness to remain in your marriage no matter how long you have trusted the Lord for the fruit of the womb because God will soon answer you.

9. Fashionable. Don’t just be an occasional dresser. Become an addicted dresser. Fashion and love goes together. Do you want your husband to keep loving you, be fashionable at all times. You need to have better understanding of colour combination, kind of wears that suit every occasion. Bad fashion sense may throw you out of your matrimonial home because all men want a good looking and stylish wife.

10. Forgiveness. Offending and forgiving are two courses you must offer if your marriage must succeed. And you must not fail in these two courses. If you fail, your marriage cannot but be rocky or end in divorce. Create a part in your heart to accommodate because your husband will definitely offend you and you must continue to forgive him. Love cannot flow in the heart that keeps malice. Forgive your husband no matter the offence. Forgiveness attitude will help you understand each other better and your marriage rock solid. Forgive, stop keeping malice. Virtuous women forgive.

11. Diligence. Many women have loosed their marriage because of laziness. Men are not looking for full-time housewives, they want hardworking wives who can contribute to the family income. Women, quit the lazy business. Get yourself engage in doing something worthwhile.

12. Self control. To have self is to be in charge of yourself (i.e) your emotions, actions and reactions attitudes. Your husband will always offend you, people will always get on your nerves but you must not allow your emotions to take over your actions. You must not over-react; you must not demonstrate uncontrollable anger. You must have control over your body; don’t engage in s*xual immorality with any other man.

13. Good Communication. It is the mouth that signifies the commencement of a marital relationship because it is when the mouth pronounce the statement “yes I do” during wedding that you are proclaimed husband and wife. That same mouth can destroy the marriage if not well managed. Be a communication expert. Speak positively, speak with humility. Avoid vulgar words like you’re a fool, you are stupid, foolish man, I will divorce you, etc. Make use of statements like “I am sorry, I am proud of you, please, thank you” etc.

14. Hospitality. Though many may not take this to be vital in building a blissful marriage, but it is. Nonchalant or hostility towards the members of your husband’s family or once the relationship between you, your husband and his family turn sour, your marriage is at risk. Welcome every visitor with a smile and qualify treatment. No man can resist a wife with a welcoming face.

15. Versatility. To be versatile means to be good at doing a lot of different things and able to learn new skills quickly and easily. Be a pioneer of new business, be productive. Get things done through many means. Improve your level of productivity and become the pride of your husband and children.

16. Patience. To live with a man for the rest of your life, you need patience in large quantity because your husband will offend you, make you feel pain but you must not react negatively. Because patience equip one with the ability to tolerate other people annoying behavior without getting angry. There are many divorce cases in marriage because many married men and women lack patience in their characters.

17. Appreciation. Appreciation is a motivation to your husband. One good deed well appreciated will open the door for greater deeds. Let appreciation become your way of life. Attach importance to every kind of gesture and gifts given to you. Do not look down on a gift. Appreciate little favour and kind gestures. Don’t let any kindness go unnoticed even if it’s below your expectations. When you are found of appreciating your husband, he will be fond of you.

18. Goodliness. It connotes godly character and way of life. Don’t be a member of a denomination for the sake of it, be godly in your conversation, actions, attitudes and dressing. You can’t be godly and be insulting, disobeying, or keeping malice with your husband and his family. Be godly indeed and let there be reflection of goodliness in all that you do.

19. Industrious. Successful marriage is a hard work and men generally love hard working women. Industrious wives are hardworking wives. As a wife, you need a develop a positive attitude towards work. Avoid being lazy, when you are lazy, your house will be dirty. You will be a liability to your husband. Don’t be a full-time house wife, work with your hands and be a pillar of support for your husband and children. Though, you may not have a white collar job, you can create a job for yourself by trading with your talents and also engage in other business which included a consultancy services.

20. Peacefulness. There will be many things that will gets you angry in marriage but you must not react angrily if you all want is a lasting marriage. Nobody needs your anger, keep it. Be a peaceful wife, be the carrier of peace, be easy enough to live with. A peaceful attitude will cause your husband to dream of coming back early to be with you. While hostile attitude can cause you to lose your husband to a strange woman.

21. Selflessness. Selflessness is one of the major killers of marriage. Never allow any traits of selflessness to raise its ugly head in your life. Imbibe the attitude of selfishness by caring for your husband and other people than yourself. Considering the needs of your husband ahead of your own will make you get more than what you bargain for because great wives are celebrated not for what they did for themselves but for what they did for their husbands.

22. Thoughtfulness. Thoughtful wife can never be fond stranded; they always act ahead of time. They are known to be proactive. Think fast and act ahead of time on how to make your husband happy by meeting his needs even before he place a demand.

23. Respect. Every husband wants respect from their wife. If you want peace in that marriage, respect your husband. No matter his height, level of academics qualifications or financial life; respect him. As a wife, you may have a better qualification, richer and more exposed; all these notwithstanding give him respect. Let him talk, obey his decisions and let his opinion counts.

24. Neatness. A neat wife, a neat home and neat children are what every husband craves for. Are you from the linage of pig? If no, drop your dirty attitude, keep your children and home neat and tidy. Always dress neat so as to remain relevant in the sight of your husband.

25. Faithfulness. Dare to be faithful. Faithfulness is insurance on the life of your husband. Other men out there may entice you with gift and money, but don’t be fooled. Remain with your husband; let no other man see your nakedness. Make a vow that you will not allow any other man apart from your husband to sleep with you.

26. Joyfulness. Be a woman of cheerful countenance at all times and in every situation. Though unpleasant situations may surround you but you must not be beclouded by it. Rejoice always. Don’t wear a bad look. Avoid frowning, smile and put on a friendly look. With this, you will see the presence of God and retain your husband’s love because men love cheerful women.

27. Kindness. Be kind hearted, engage in kind acts, by showing concern about the happiness, feelings and wellbeing of your husband, children and the people around you. Speak kindly; make your request in a polite manner to your husband always. Your kindness towards him will endear your husband to you always.

28. Generosity. Both male and female, everybody love gifts. Be generous to your husband and don’t be stingy. Stop hiding your money from him. Every man wants a woman who releases her resources willingly to her husband. Being generous will make you win your in-laws and your husband stick to you. Remember, it is more blessed to give than to receive. Give unsolicited gifts.

29. Faith. Don’t behave like most women who are fearful but be women of faith. Apply faith in every situation you find yourself, be positive and you will get positive results. It is the lacks of faith that make every woman weep in the face of seemingly difficult situation. Operate from the side of faith and you will commit God to daily operations in your life.

30. Prayerfulness. Your marriage requires more prayer to work than you can imagine. Form the habit of ceaseless prayer. A woman of prayer is a woman in charge of her home and she is a woman who can keep her marriage. Rise up and commit the emotion, actions, decision, job/career, attitudes, friends, finances, etc of your husband into the hands of the Lord. Taking your husband to God in prayer constantly will make you have positive husband whose actions is controlled from above. Stop crying and stop reporting your husband to family and friends, rather pray for him.

31. Truthfulness. Be a truthful person. Avoid telling lies. Speak the truth and stick with it. If your husband know that you’re truthful, he will trust you and believe your words. Don’t rove too smart by telling lies in any situations. Speak the truth and win the trust of your husband.

Ladies, Get Ready! These Are 9 Subtle Signs Your Man Is Going To Propose To You Soon (Take Note Of No. 2)

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There are certain signs you should look out for in a man to decipher if he is soon going to propose to you. These are some of those signs.

Here are nine signs he’s probably going to propose soon.

1. He doesn’t dismiss your hints.

There’s nothing worse than a woman haggling a man over an engagement ring when he has no intentions of popping the question. So if you start dropping hints about ring styles you love, and he looks at you with adoration and not, “Not this nonsense again,”he might be ready to buy you a sparkling gem of a ring.

2. He plans his future with you in it.

If he’s talking about his future and not referencing it as, “One day down the line” or”When the time comes,” but instead is speaking about his life plans with you directly in line, he’s ready to commit to you for the long haul. Don’t be surprised if you find him on one knee, with a ring in one hand and yours in the other.

3. He makes a point to bring you around more.

Are you suddenly BFFs with his family? Are the family invites to events and dinners pouring in? He’s grooming them — and you. Letting everyone get a chance to really know you is a sure sign he wants you around forever.

4. He’s working overtime.

Is he suddenly not available to cuddle and hang out so much because work is running him ragged? Does he seem a little stressed or tired? He may be working overtime to provide your hand and finger with the best ring this side of town.

5. He’s suddenly being secretive.

Is he being secretive, but not in an angry way? Simply taking steps to go somewhere or hunting online, yet refusing to let you look? Someone may be ring shopping.

6. He refers to you as “the wife.”

If he calls you “The Wife,” and not in an annoying or sarcastic way, he’s putting vibes out into the world that he already sees you as his special lifelong love. A ring is the next natural step.

7. He asks you about your future.

Suddenly, homeboy is talking to you about your future wants. We all know men can avoid deep conversation and commitment like the plague, but if he’s reaching out to you to open the conversation, he’s putting the feelers out to see if you’re ready and willing to be with him forever.

8. All his friends are getting married.

If your guy is hanging with committed dudes, he wants a commitment as well.

9. He tells you straight-up.

If you’re the eager beaver looking for some reassurance of his commitment to you and he’s willingly sharing that he’s in it to win it, then be patient. That ring will come.

Read What Nigerians Think Of A Woman Proposing Marriage To A Man

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Nigerians living in Abuja on Wednesday expressed divergent views on whether a woman should propose marriage to her male partner.

Some residents, who spoke to the News Agency of Nigeria in separate interviews in Abuja, said it was not an advisable action to take.

Rose Chukwuma, a marriage counsellor, stated that there was nothing wrong in women actually proposing.

“There is the will you marry me question and the marriage suggestion.

“Women know who they are comfortable enough to get married to so if a woman feels the guy is dragging his feet, I recommend she suggests marriage to him.

“She can simply ask him where the relationship is headed.

“She should give the man hints that show she is interested and create an atmosphere for him to pop the question if he is serious and if he still doesn’t, she should take the hint and move on.
Ms. Chukwuma, however, added that she would not advise women to make the final proposal.

“When a woman proposes by officially popping the question and getting him engaged, she gives him room to take her for granted and most men do take advantage of it,” she said.

“Men also don’t support the idea much because it makes them lose their voice of authority or leadership in the relationship which makes it boring.”

Uche Ibezim, a pastor of Christian Outreach International Church, said that the Bible didn’t support women proposing to men.

“Godly men take their time to analyse the relationship and put it in prayer before proposing, and all that is done because they know the responsibility acquired from a successful proposal.

“The Bible emphasises on men providing, instructing, leading and protecting their wives and family, so if a woman proposes, she is saying she wants to take up the man’s role.

“The Bible says wives should submit to their husbands as the husband is the head of the house as Christ is of the church and this submission refers to women following the lead of their husbands.

“It also says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord, not she who finds a husband.

“Women proposing to men might lead to some successful marriages, but in most cases the reverse is the case,” he said.

Isa Abubakar, an Islamic studies teacher, said it wasn’t wrong for women to propose marriage as far as it was done according to the Islamic rules.

“If a Muslim woman is interested in a man who is worthy of her she is free to honourably approach him with a marriage proposal.

“This may be seen as improper to some Muslims from different cultures but it is a cultural attitude, not an Islamic one.

“She could do it indirectly by asking her parents to ask his parents or by requesting the assistance of a relative or mutual friend.

“If she decides to go herself, she has to abide by Islamic laws such as asking him for a meeting in public along with a friend or relative to act as a chaperone.

“She has to be mindful of her appearance and body language too,” he said.

Patience Osanya, a civil servant said that she doesn’t like the idea of women proposing to men.
“A woman is to be won like a prize, not to be given out like a souvenir, so the best she can do is to give the man signs that she is interested in getting married to him.

“By the second year of dating my husband, I had shown him marriage signs even by spending a couple of weeks at his place every now and then.

“At a point I asked him if we were cousins that were sharing a house and he responded no.
“Two weeks later he proposed to me.

“Women just have to communicate indirectly,” Mrs. Osanya said.

Adam Bahdmus, a driving instructor, said he saw nothing wrong with women proposing as far as the women were ready to take up the responsibilities of the men.

“Proposing marriage means the person asking is willing to cater for the prospective partner and be responsible for the person.

“Therefore, if she wants to propose to a man, she should be willing to bare the marital responsibilities, which includes paying the groom price.

“If the man is willing to be a househusband while she works to finance the home she shouldn’t complain because she asked for it by proposing,” he said.

Kunle Ijagbemi, an auditor, told NAN that there was nothing wrong with the proposal and that he viewed such women as bold individuals who were go getters.

“I respect women who decide to do such because, it displays self-confidence and shows the woman is a go getter, but that at times can be scary to some men.

“I have always imagined how I would propose to a girl but I’m scared of her saying no, therefore I will prefer to be proposed to.

“African culture believes that the woman is made to look cheap if she does that, but if a woman is sure that she has found her man she should grab him.”