5 Signs Your Girlfriend Will Make A Good Wife

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Have you been wondering if your girlfriend is someone you should settle with in future? then check this out!!

1. She is independent
An independent woman is a good choice because you know that she will not rely on you to keep her happy, occupied, and taken care of. An independent woman wants you rather than needs you; she doesn’t freak out if she doesn’t hear from you for a day, and won’t be clingy or demanding of your time. This kind of woman will make a better wife than one who requires constant attention and reassurance. An independent woman is strong, confident, and not afraid to be alone.

Understand that interdependency is healthy. The kind of independence your wife should have concerns her ability to fully function on her own. But, she also knows how to reach for you when she does need you and can depend on you emotionally.

2. She is level-headed
A woman who is level-headed is much more appealing than one who is frustrated by every minor issue. You want a woman who will remain reasonably calm in stressful situations. This does not mean she will be perfect and never get upset, but she will not lose her cool at everything that goes wrong. She knows how to handle her emotions and thinks before she speaks.
You should also feel that she is a good resource for times when you might be under stress. You can count on her abilities, intelligence and thoughts when you can’t.

3. She’s low-maintenance
Just because a woman is low-maintenance doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about herself at all, but she won’t spend hours getting ready for a date. A low-maintenance woman doesn’t pile on the makeup, spend too much money on shoes and clothes, or need constant reminders that you love the way she looks. She takes pride in the way she looks without going overboard.
A high maintenance woman may not be with you through thick and thin. What happens when you can’t maintain her lifestyle? You should not worry that this person will leave you or look elsewhere to keep her expensive habits going.

4. She supports your goals
A woman who supports your personal and career goals will make a good wife. This type of woman understands that not everything will be about her or you as a couple. While you both will have individual goals, she will be by your side cheering you in your efforts. She won’t feel threatened by the time and energy you put into achieving your goals because she will have her own.
Your goals should also mesh nicely. They should not be so divergent as to cause a rift between you both. Knowing your spouse supports will help you meet those goals as well.

5. She stands up for herself
Whether she is standing up to you, a family member, or a friend, you want a woman who will not let people treat her badly. You do not want a woman who will accept your bad behavior toward her or in general. You will likely loose respect for her. A woman who stands up for herself has confidence in herself and will not let anyone abuse her, talk down to her, or act as though her opinions don’t matter.

If you want to get married, it’s important to look for qualities that show the woman you are dating is a capable of being alone, strong, and responsible. Getting married is nothing to take lightly and you want to make the best decision for your life.

Guys, Take Note! These Are 4 Things You Must Accept Before Dating An Independent Woman

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If you have been thinking of dating an independent woman recently, then these are certain things you must know.

Independent women are mentally stimulated and fulfilled by their career. They love the freedom to go where the day takes them— So, before you date an independent and confident woman, here are 4 important things we want you to know:

1. Cooking and cleaning are NOT their priority.

Their time and energy are spent on their career and businesses

2. They have no time or patience for jealousy.

This is because they are frequently surrounded by other people, both in business and social settings (including other men)

3. If you try to suffocate them, they will run.

Because they really enjoy devoting time to work, being with loved ones, and spending time alone

4. They proclaim to the world that they don’t NEED a man, but the truth is — they do.

They want someone who can hang pictures, change light bulbs, and unclog the toilet (or at least be somewhat handy). They want someone who will encourage and celebrate their success, who is also strong enough to have their back.

Must Read : Nigerian Men See The 5 Types of Women You Should Never Marry

If you are just about to get married, then you need to settle down and go through this so as not to make any mistake.

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Here are Five Types of Women You Shouldn’t Marry
1. Spoiled
While fathers love to spoil their daughters, little girls should not grow up to be spoiled women. There is nothing wrong with liking good things and wanting a man to provide for his family. However, when a woman feels entitled to things without making an equal contribution, she is not cut out for a successful marriage. To spoil is to change the character of something because of “excessive indulgence.” If a woman’s character has been compromised because of wealth or material things, stay away from her.
2. Lazy
Laziness is often a byproduct of being spoiled, but some people are lazy without being spoiled. A solid work-ethic is important for a happy marriage. If both spouses aren’t willing to work, marriage will be very difficult. Work-ethic isn’t about drawing a paycheck, it’s about consistently making the effort required for a successful life. Whether at a job, around the house, or in the relationship, laziness will kill a marriage. If a person is lazy while dating, they will likely be just as lazy, if not more so, when married.
3. Unstable
Emotional stability is often overlooked as a key characteristic of a good spouse, yet it’s importance should be obvious. When someone is emotionally stable, they are reasonably predictable. In nearly every case, we know how they will respond. However, when someone is emotionally unstable, we never know what we are going to get. They might laugh at a situation one time and fly off the handle the next time. They might receive a comment as a compliment on one day but then be deeply hurt by the same words the next day. The unpredictable responses can paralyze a spouse. When looking for a spouse, find someone who is emotionally stable.
4. Unfaithful
While adultery is devastating no matter the relationship, when women are unfaithful it is even less likely a relationship will endure. Maybe it’s because men are less forgiving. More likely it is because when women have an affair the relationship is already in deeper trouble. But no matter the situation, any hint of unfaithfulness while dating should cause a man to run.
5. Addicted
No matter how great a woman may be, if she is addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling or any other destructive behavior, it will likely destroy the relationship. The problem with addiction is the active addict is more in love with their substance than their spouse. While a recovering addict can make a great spouse, an active addict cannot. If you love someone who is in an addiction, tell them to fix the addiction and then give you a call. But do not marry someone in the midst of the struggle.
If your potential spouse is free from these five qualities, it will go a long way in creating a healthy relationship.
– Information Nigeria

7 Status Updates That Would Make Your Ex Burn With Jealousy, Check It Out!

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Breakups are usually nasty; some relationships get broken amidst tears and pains. The affected people in some of these bad breakups hold grudges against each other for a long time.

Some people are vengeful; they would always do things that would make their exes mad despite having gone separate ways. They enjoy the fact that they still have certain powers and authorities over them even though they are miles apart.

Depending on the level of maturity of the individuals that have separated, things may not be as bad as people think they would be if they handle things well. Some individuals believe they have the right to say whatever they want since they are no longer within the confines of a relationship.

They take to their social media pages and update their thoughts there as a way of reaching out to their exes. They know that their status updates would always be checked by the overzealous partners who enjoy stalking them.

Status updates like that could be hurtful if it is being read by the person it was written for. Updates like that would either make an ex cringe with jealousy or burn with anger. Whichever way, you can be sure it would evoke some emotional reaction in the aggrieved exes.

Find below some of the status updates you would see when people are trying to reach out to their exes:

1. Good riddance to bad rubbish

Some people could be so direct with the status updates they drop on their Whatsapp, BBM and Facebook pages. Whichever ex sees this kind of updates is bound to be more depressed. It is a message that would make anyone feel worthless no matter what led to the breakup.

Many people want their partners to show some sense of dependency when they break up as it would make them feel good. When they do not get the desired attention, it could be annoying.

2. I really do not care about you anymore

Indeed, some people have a little bit of growing up to do considering the way they handle breakups.

It is absurd passing a message to your ex via social media pages when you could have called him or her directly. Whether you think this is wrong or right, some people still do it.

Some put up blatant statements like these in order to hit their exes hard. It would work for whoever chooses to be bothered by them.

3. Blocking is for weaklings

Some people are smart, they anticipate their exes action and drop their status updates before they ever get to make that move.

They know they are most likely to get blocked and would do things that would make the ex reconsider. No one wants to be seen as a weakling anyway.

4. Sometimes you have to act like a fool to fool someone…

When your ex is trying to make you feel like your moves are weak, you would see an update like this.

They are only trying to make you feel stupid by telling you they did not play into your hands. Depending on the depth of what transpired between you two, you may not feel bad about it.

5. You folded your mat and I got rug instead

With this status update, your ex is telling you that he or she has moved on. This means that you had been a bad choice all along as they have finally met a better person.

Seeing this update could cause your anger to boil as you would be tempted to say something hurtful in turn. But you can guess how that is going to end.

6. Don’t be a woman that needs a man, be a woman a man needs

Many ladies put this up in order to motivate themselves. This status update is most likely to be seen when a woman is getting over a breakup.

This is more or less like a point of strength to her as she must have considered herself to be an asset and not a loss. Basically, people get better when they have a positive thought like this after a breakup. They become better individuals at the long run.

7. Heart closed until further notice

Many people in the society enjoy the attention they get from people when they put up an update like this one.

They want everyone to know they have been brokenhearted. They silently tell whoever broke their hearts that they are hurting and would not give other people the opportunity to mess with them.

There are several other updates people drop when they are going through an emotional tussle. What are the popular status updates you have seen? Kindly put them in the comment section.

Ladies, Get In! 7 Accurate Ways To Spot A Stingy Man On The First Date

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Ladies of this generation are obviously not interested in men who are broke or stingy; women are starting to hustle hard too.

There are lots of young women in the society who are entrepreneurs; women who know what they want in life and are not ready to bask down.

If women could struggle that hard in order not to be broke, then what excuse do the men have? Materialism could become a controversial word depending on the angle with which you decide to see things from.

It could be used relatively because these women may exhibit certain behaviours that deflect that attribute because they want to ascertain the men’s financial stability.

At the same time, some of these women have good paying jobs that could make them afford the things they expect the men to do for them.

Women do not want to be in relationships with men who cannot cater for their basic needs. They do not want to be tied down by men who would prevent them from soaring higher in life because of their constant emotional and financial needs.

Since men have always claimed to be the head, most women expect them to deliver in this aspect. We would try as much as possible not to be biased with this piece; thus, we also have to acknowledge the fact that there are some girls who simply dupe the men they meet.

Women choose the first date to study the men who they go on dates with. They can tell from the things that happen there whether the date is stingy or not. Find out some of the things they check out in order to know whether their date is stingy or not:

1. When he sets the date in his house

Some guys could be so annoying and forceful; they would insist on you coming over to their house on a first date. Stingy guys do this in order not to spend much.

Most ladies are usually edgy and unsure about having the first date in the men’s houses. Some shameless men go on to manipulate the ladies by making them cook. When he does all these, then you should know your date is stingy.

2. Orders a cheap meal for you

Sometimes, the plan of making his place the venue for the date may be foiled. Your date may be forced to reconsider taking you to an open place on date.

When a guy orders a cheap meal for you or coaxes you to order something cheap, you do not need much proof to tell you what kind of person he is when it comes to spending.

3. When he complains about the cost of the meal you ordered

When you are on a date with a guy and he cannot stop talking about the expenses he has to cover because of the date, then you should know that he is really stingy.

You can bet he would make you feel uncomfortable with his constant nagging. He may deviate and tell you about the major projects he is handling in order for you to know that he has lots of responsibilities.

4. Then he goes on to order nothing

If your date is one of those guys who take ladies out on a date and watch them eat while they starve to death, then you should know that he is stingy.

Why on earth would he choose not to have anything when you have ordered? He probably does not want to spend extra; that is better than him running off when he sees the bill anyway.

5. When the date is in a shabby environment

Some men deliberately take ladies to shabby environments and local bars where things would be relatively cheap in order to cut down the expenses of that hangout.

Some of these guys know that such places do not befit them but they would do it all the same. If you find yourself in one of those places, you should know the kind of person you are about to start a deal with.

6. When he suggests you share bills

Honestly, some guys in this part of the world are shameless. They take you on dates and suggest you split the cost.

If you experience this on your first date, then your date is very stingy. But if you actually suggested it and he agreed, then he has failed the first test.

7. When he demands for s*x

If your date mentions anything that is related to s*x because he bought you a plate of food then you should know that he is a stingy man who wants to get paid in kind. Avoid hanging out with men like these as they have little or nothing to offer you.

At Last, Scientists Discover Why Women Really Cheat…You Will Be Shocked!

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A group of scientists have finally revealed the true reason why women really cheat and the finding is really shocking.

Are women wired to cheat? Scientists have claimed that women are programmed to do the dirty on their partner – but it’s all down to their biology. According to a new study, lusty ladies are “genetically programmed to have affairs” because monogamy is unnatural.

Instead scientists think the females have evolved to keep their options open at all times, meaning they constantly test relationships and remain on the lookout for better mates.

Researchers at the University of Texas claim women are predisposed to play away, but it’s so they can have “back up plans” if their current relationships fail. The desire to cheat stems back to our ancient ancestors who would have kept back-up partners on the sidelines incase their current squeeze died.

Senior author of the research, Dr. David Buss, explained: “Affairs serve as a form of mate insurance, keeping a back-up mate should a switch become warranted in the future.

“A regular mate may cheat, defect, die, or decline in mate value.

“Ancestral women lacking a back-up mate would have suffered a lapse in protection and resources.”

The professor of evolutionary psychology reckons that women evaluate their lover’s “mate value” and then compare it against other single guys’ ratings.

Dr. David told the Sunday Times: “Lifelong monogamy does not characterise the primary mating patterns of humans.

“Breaking up with one partner and mating with another may more accurately characterise the common, perhaps the primary, mating strategy of humans.”

Meanwhile there’s more evidence to suggest that cheating might just be in our DNA.

Some people believe there’s a cheating gene, or set of genes.

A recent study of 181 men and women by researchers at Binghamton University suggested that half of all people have a gene that makes them prone to sleeping around and being unfaithful.

Those with the DRD4 gene “were more likely to have a history of uncommitted s*x, including one-night stands and acts of infidelity” according to lead investigator Justin Garcia.

6 Habits That Make A Lady/Guy Dont Wanna Date You

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Finding love is hard.
Sometimes when you’ve been single for a long time, you begin to question yourself. Finding isn’t easy. But the love search is easily complicated by some habits you have.

“And the worst part, you don’t even know you’re sabotaging yourself.”

Many longtime single people who have been searching for love usually have habits that reduce their chances. Some of your habits could be stopping you from moving past the first few dates. Here are some of the major things that make you undateable:

1. You’ve got a big Ego
We know these kinds of people who think and act like everyone is beneath them. Like they’re better than everyone else. Your big ego could be getting in your way of finding love. If you think you’re better than everyone, how are you going to settle with one person?

2. Working too much
Hard work is good. Successful people are hard and smart workers. But how will you have time to date when you work a 12 hour day?

3. Being too clingy
You know those guys/ladies that call your phone 5 times a day after knowing you for a few days. If you’re one of those people, you’re clingy. And this comes off as being desperate. It could be chasing away your love interests.

4. Unrealistic standards
Unrealistic standards can be hurting your chances of finding love. Example, a girl who wants an RMD-looking kind of guy will wait for a very long time. Or a guy who wants a girl who looks like Kim K and behaves like mother Theresa might find himself growing “mettu” as we say in Naija. Set realistic standards and you will find love sooner.

5. Lying too much
Some people’s names need to be changed to Linus or maybe Pinocchio. This is because they lie about every little thing. Nobody likes being lied to. If you’re a Nigerian Pinocchio (male and female), please change your ways to find a partner.

6. Being too argumentative
Nigerians love to argue. If you’re on a date and your partner thinks A is better than B. And you think B is better than A. There is no need to talk them to death till they agree with you. Nobody likes an argumentative partner. Respect people’s rights to their opinions even if it’s different from yours.

7 Types Of Girls You Shouldn’t Date If You Don’t Want To Die

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There are certain types of women you do not want to date and doing so would amount to making the worst mistake in your life. Even though you feel you could love none other at the moment than that girl who falls into any of the under listed categories, take some advice and find a cure for your love before it buries you underneath a truckload of crap!

These set of girls are so hot, they can burn:

1. Your best friend’s sister

This rarely goes well, be it in Nollywood, Hollywood or real life. To the girls it is not a big deal to go out with their brother’s friend, but guys remember, it is not a good idea, and make sure you do not allow the ladies folks lure you into such a relationship.

Guys, your friend does not want you close to his sister probably because he knows your mode of operation and he does not want his sister to become a name in your hall of fame. Besides that, would it not be awkward for you to start sharing relationship details with your girlfriend’s brother

Remember, if you are really serious, talk to your friend about it first. And even if he approves, accept the possibility of losing that friendship. You win the girl and lose a friend

Worst case scenario, you break her heart and you get into a fight with your best friend, you lose the girl and a friend.

2. In a relationship

When a girl is already in a relationship before you meet her, the best thing for you is to leave her alone. There is no way it is going to turn out good.

If a girl is in a relationship before you met her, and she still agrees to date you, what does that tell you? Yes, she is not the faithful type and definitely not a keeper.

If she is in a relationship and refused to go out with you because she is in a relationship, then that is a trait you should admire, too bad she is not faithful to you. And you should not wait by the corner waiting for another man’s relationship to crash.

Even if you decide to be just friends, you already like her, and might put her relationship with the other guy in jeopardy.

3. The Underage

This might seem like common sense, but some people need to be reminded.

It does not matter how big the girl appears, or how matured she seems. As long as a girl is below 18 in Nigeria, she is clearly off limits.

4. The Superstar

Everybody girl deserves some attention from her lover (to show her that you love her). Some girls just think that the world is a stage and they are the star. When she talks, she wants everybody to listen, when she is in trouble, everybody should console her.

She wants to be the center of your life, having no regard for your sibling, parents, friends and sometimes even your job. She is ready to anything for special attention; cry, play victim, lie, just about anything. As long as you supply her with an unending supply of attention she if okay.

At first, you would be flattered that you mean so much to somebody and then she would begin to sap the living being out of you, the stress would make look twice your age and if you do not get away from such a girl in time, you might just visit your ancestors a lot earlier than you planned.

5. High Maintenance

If your income is trailing behind her needs then it would be a good idea to run ‘440’ for your dear life and pocket. At first, you might kid yourself into thinking that as time goes by her needs are going to dwindle. You continue to kid yourself until you realize that the goal of this girl is to bankrupt your future.

It is almost impossible to have a relationship without spending money, but if her love for you is going to be on a per-second-billing then you should also know that you will be disconnected when you run out of “airtime” and she is going to “port” to the next guy with the most cash.

6. The ex-girlfriend

There is a reason why she is your ex, you should never forget that. You might be tempted go back to your ex whenever you are bored or lonely.

As a rule, you never go back to your ex-girlfriends. It is like the proverbial going back to your vomit.

You might start to get nostalgic and all, but you should remember that there was a reason she is in your past and that should be the same reason she should remain there.

7. Your co-worker

Your co-worker is one girl that should not be on your radar when searching for a relationship.

You could lose your job because of this girl and she might dump you three days after you get fired for having an affair with her.

Even if you do not get fired because of her, you might create unnecessary enemies, especially when she is hot and everybody wants her, including your boss.

She is also going to be a huge source of distraction. And just in case she is the boss’ daughter, it is a huge no-no.

Where Are The Guys? Here Are The Five Ways To Know Your Partner is Cheating On You

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Cheating is an ordeal most people don’t want to experience. Give them a thieving partner and they may be just fin. The lying, cheating partner they just can’t take.

When your partner cheats on you with another person, it is involves more a mere bruising of your emotions.

It is even more traumatizing if your partner cheats on you over a sustained period of time. In fact, some people never recover from the infidelity of their partners.

It is possible that you will never stop asking what you did that made them cheat on you. Were they really that unhappy, or were they just born to cheat?

These are a few signs that can help save you from the unpleasant shock at the discovery of your partner’s unfaithfulness.

1. If You Think He/she Is Cheating, He/she Most Likely Is

If you keep getting the nagging sensation that your partner is cheating on you, chances are he/she is. It is possible that you’re just being insecure and possibly, crazy. But Nature gave you your instincts for a reason, so they may not be wrong after all.

You have trusted your instincts on a number of occasions; this situation may not be so different from the countless times your instincts were proven right. There is one thing to remember, however.

If you’re suspicions are based on just your instincts, it will be wiser to hold on to your confrontations until you have substantial evidence to build your case.

2. The No-discussion-friend

If your partner has a friend of the opposite s*x who they are unwilling to talk about with you, there is the likelihood that they are engaged in an affair with this friend.

Or planning to, at least. If your partner gets agitated, uncomfortable and defensive every time you bring up this friend in casual conversations, then you have every suspicious to be suspicious.

3. Unnecessary Little Lies About Where They Are

If your partner consistently lies about where they are, it is possible that they are hiding something: a secret-engagement party, a drug-habit, or an affair.

If your partner constantly goes to the ends of the world to explain the casual question of “hey luv, where were you today”, this will be a good time to get your heart, and head, together before the existence of his/her new lover is thrust upon you.

4. He/she Loses Interest In Initiating Romance, And At Times, S*x

Previously there were things that the both of you loved doing. It was ‘our time’ for you both: strolls, reading together, cooking, making love etc.

If your partner is always not in the mood to do the very things you both loved to do, there is a high likelihood that they have found someone else who is keeping them physically and emotionally occupied.

5. Tantrums And Name-calling

If you suspect that your partner is being unfaithful, and you confront them in a civil manner; there are several reactions they could adopt. The guiltiest of these reactions, and the one which shows they could be having an affair, is when they fly into a rage and call you names.

If your partner really loves you and is wholehearted committed to making your relationship work, they would try to assuage your fear; they won’t call you insecure, paranoid, jealous, or even crazy.

If your partner gets erratic at civil conversations on faithfulness, it is possible they are hiding a secret affair.

Written by Dede Williams

Guys! 5 Signs You Need To Marry Your Current Girlfriend!!

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Here are five signs that your girlfriend will also make a great wife:

1. She is independent

An independent woman is a good choice because you know that she will not rely on you to keep her happy, occupied, and taken care of. An independent woman wants you rather than needs you; she doesn’t freak out if she doesn’t hear from you for a day, and won’t be clingy or demanding of your time. This kind of woman will make a better wife than one who requires constant attention and reassurance. An independent woman is strong, confident, and not afraid to be alone.

Understand that interdependency is healthy. The kind of independence your wife should have concerns her ability to fully function on her own. But, she also knows how to reach for you when she does need you and can depend on you emotionally.

2. She is level-headed

A woman who is level-headed is much more appealing than one who is frustrated by every minor issue. You want a woman who will remain reasonably calm in stressful situations. This does not mean she will be perfect and never get upset, but she will not lose her cool at everything that goes wrong. She knows how to handle her emotions and thinks before she speaks.

You should also feel that she is a good resource for times when you might be under stress.  You can count on her abilities, intelligence and thoughts when you can’t.

3. She’s low-maintenance

Just because a woman is low-maintenance doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about herself at all, but she won’t spend hours getting ready for a date. A low-maintenance woman doesn’t pile on the makeup, spend too much money on shoes and clothes, or need constant reminders that you love the way she looks. She takes pride in the way she looks without going overboard.

A high maintenance woman may not be with you through thick and thin. What happens when you can’t maintain her lifestyle?  You should not worry that this person will leave you or look elsewhere to keep her expensive habits going.

4. She supports your goals

A woman who supports your personal and career goals will make a good wife. This type of woman understands that not everything will be about her or you as a couple. While you both will have individual goals, she will be by your side cheering you in your efforts. She won’t feel threatened by the time and energy you put into achieving your goals because she will have her own.

Your goals should also mesh nicely. They should not be so divergent as to cause a rift between you both. Knowing your spouse supports will help you meet those goals as well.

5. She stands up for herself

Whether she is standing up to you, a family member, or a friend, you want a woman who will not let people treat her badly. You do not want a woman who will accept your bad behavior toward her or in general. You will likely loose respect for her. A woman who stands up for herself has confidence in herself and will not let anyone abuse her, talk down to her, or act as though her opinions don’t matter.

If you want to get married, it’s important to look for qualities that show the woman you are dating is a capable of being alone, strong, and responsible. Getting married is nothing to take lightly and you want to make the best decision for your life.

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