Things Ladies Should Stop Doing If They Don’t Have Plans For A Guy

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The truth is painful but must be spoken nonetheless. I’ve heard some complaints from some friends plus some of my past experiences.

Ladies, if you don’t have plans for a guy stop the following:

1. Stop calling him “sweet names” like dearie, sweetheart, honey, love etc.

We know you’re a “lovie duvie” but biko, control it enh…don’t give him false hope. Let friends be friends NOT lovers. Unless you want to switch over, then you open up.

2. Stop visiting him on skimpy clothes and buttoned shirts, especially when you’re ‘courageous’.

You visit a guy whose ear has filled with topics like ‘How ladies behave when they want to get laid“. If you don’t have plans for him, quit sending those signals. Remember: To every sequence, there is a consequence.

3. Stop getting jealous when you see him with other girls

You don’t want to marry him, yet you get jealous when he’s making headway, relationship-wise. You’re not his mother, biko. Friends sef have limits.

4. Stop discussing your past relationships with him- it’s not his business.

This thing you are saying is communicating something different to his mind.

You want to talk with someone, you have besties right? False hope everywhere! cheesy Now, what do you want him to do? Leave his girl and come solve your relationship problems?

5. Stop visiting him at odd or questionable hours

This is one major way smart and decent girls nicely wipe the thought away from the mind of numerous suitors. If you don’t want intimacy, don’t visit him at all sef.

Not like all guys are like that, but MOST girls are like that. A girl visits you and choose to be a good boy, then she hates you. The next point expatiate more…

6. Don’t suggest sleeping in his house or vice versa because something might happen.

This offers a protective measure. Don’t get me wrong: if there’s an understanding, it’s okay.

More often than not, in a corrupt world of ours, no one can be trusted in a cold bed.

You can trust him but can you trust his “down there”. If you don’t want “harassment”, avoid stuff like this.

7. Don’t “miss” him.

Ever woke up in the morning and you see a text message in your phone by “just a friend’ saying ‘I miss you’. That stirs up questions as much as it does hormones. It’s risky.

8. Stop ‘br**sting’ him

You don’t have plans for him and you’ll be staining his white clean shirt with your b**bs. C’mon! That’s unfair! Some will just come with their coconut and rest on your body as if your skin cells are dead and gone. Let’s change in 2016.

Abeg enh, let’s know the ladies that are still single and available. Don’t colour-blind us. If you are in love, show it and don’t act funny when we reciprocate.

Relationship leads to marriage when both parties are honest to themselves. Its childish and evil to start acting innocent after you have caused him to sin at heart.

I honestly believe, a few guys won’t easily swallow this bitter pill as they’ll seek ways to avenge.

Where Are The Ladies? See The 9 Signs You Are Not The Main Girl But His Side Chick

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Most guys are known to keep multiple partners either because their real bae as they call it is not around or because of promiscuity.

Either ways, there would have been some handwriting which the lady who they often refer to as side chick often fail to spot. Cliqloaded has put together signs that suggest that you may not be the main person in your his life.

1. most of his discussion with you is about s*x or romance.

When he invites you to his house and the first 10minutes he is reaching out for your goodies; you are not even done with the fanta and gala he offered you.

2. You’re Never Invited To A Family Gathering

If you have never met a guy’s parents and siblings or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is an indicator that you’re his Side chick buh not the “Main Chick”.

3. He Hates Surprises

Your man doesn’t want you to come unannounced, without notifications. So if he constantly says he hates surprise visits, it’s time to get concerned.

4. Protective Of His Phone

He has a password on his phone and makes sure to lock it after every time he uses it.When the phone rings, it either goes into another room to take the call, ignores it completely, or turns the volume down super low so that you can’t possibly hear a thing that is being said.

5. Refuses To Show Affection In Public

If you grab his hand and he pulls his hand away, or you never get a kiss or hug, or you never get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re 100% side chick.

6. Avoids Having Selfie With You

If you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like “Bullets” whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture..He’s afraid his Main chick might see the pic.

7. Strange Calls

He dials or receive calls from a strange number. He always has to pick it, he never tells you who it was.But you know that it is not his mom or sibling. Sometimes the number might not be stored in his phone contact.That’s a sign to check it all up, because it can be the second(Main Chick).

8. He’s Not Calling You His Girlfriend

When it’s time to introduce you to his friends, colleagues or even relatives, he just introduces you with your name.And he never calls you his girlfriend or sweet words like “Dear, Honey, Bae. Etc among his circle.

9. Never Talks About The Future

Asking him about his views on the future of your relationship is like “Pulling Teeth”.In his mind he’s probably well aware that keeping you as the other woman won’t last long, so why plan on a future at all?

5 Real Reasons Why Nigerian Girls Can’t Do Without Make Up

People have a lot of opinions about women who wear makeup. Questions like ‘why do you wear it? Isn’t that too much? You don’t really look better with it and so on are some of the things these women deal with.

The truth is that there are many reasons why women wear makeup, and they rarely have to do with gaining approval from anyone else. Are you one of those who do not see the need for women to wear make up?

Well, Cliqloaded brings you 6 reasons why some Nigerian girls can’t do without makeup.

1. Are you sick? Many people don’t want people thinking they are sick or depressed, so they just put their make up on. These kind of questions pop up many times on a day a woman doesn’t have her make up on.

2. Increase Confidence: For instance, some women have a lot of pimples on their faces. This sort of gives them low self esteem but with make up on, its like they got their groove on and could conquer any territory.

3. Its fun: It is an aret. Women automatically feel like Napoleon or Da vinci when they apply their make up. It gives women the right to play with colours and express themselves while bringing to bare their other sides.

4. Feel pretty: Its not like most women feel ugly without it (although some of them do) but wearing make up properly makes many women very prettier.

5. Self love: Many people are of the opinion that women who wear makeup do it to get the attention of guys, but the fact, women who wear makeup, do it for themselves. It makes some of them happier and feel better about themselves.

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Distance Relationship Saga: She Turned Him Down Because He Stays In Osun But Agreed To Date Someone In U.S

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A Cliqloadite sent this for us to post.

Read below:-

She lives in lagos and turned down the relationship proposal of a guy who is based in Osun state, Claiming that “Distance will ruin the relationship” as she can’t trust him totally.

My brothers and sisters, that same Lady has accepted the relationship proposal of a guy who lives in the U.S. Now claiming that “Love Conquers all”.

Wait! Shey Osun State far pass U.S ni? – Someone should help us answer that question.

Ladies clamor for love like it is salvation, but the truth is that love isn’t really what they want these days. What they truly want is a Greener Pasture. If your grasses aren’t green, just forget it #chikena.

Good Night guys!

10 Reasons Why It’s Best You Don’t Stay In Contact With Your Ex

Here are the reason why you shouldn’t be in touch with your Ex else you might end up landing yourself in some silly trouble…

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1. The Fire Will Always Be Rekindled

If you broke up with someone you love from the bottom of your heart either through mutual consent or in an aggressive manner, the status of the relationship changes immediately but not the feelings. If you continually meet up with your ex, chances are you will end up falling in love with them all over again or rekindle the fire that still exists even if they’ve moved on with someone new.

2. You Can’t Heal

It is easier to heal from a breakup when you don’t have to hear or see their faces all the time. Memories of the good times you had with them will always find a way to crop up all the time you get to see them or hear their voices. The more you keep in contact, the more difficult it will be for you to stop yourself from loving them.

3. You’d Get Hurt By Keeping In Touch

This is particularly so if your ex has moved on with someone else. Keeping in touch with them will only bring anger and hurt as they may walk away when you remind them of the memories you shared together. This will likely leave you humiliated, angry and hurting.

4. You Can’t Give Your Heart To Someone Else

By keeping in touch with your ex, you’d likely feel bad if you date someone else. When you disregard the no contact rule and stay in touch with your ex, you’d feel like it’s morally wrong to date someone else. And even when you’re trying to find someone or something else to distract you, the thought of your break up will always linger in your mind, making you feel uneasy and miserable all the time.

5. You’d Be Stuck

If you keep the communication lines open with your ex, chances are you’d be stuck in the same position in your love life. And by this we mean you’d always be remembering how much you miss all the things you used to have with them in your relationship. By severing contact with them, you’d be taking an emotional step towards liberation where you will be able to find new and more interesting things to fill the void in your heart.

6. Staying Away Will Make You Forgiving

If the reason you broke up was because your ex cheated on you or left you to be with someone else, it may be difficult for you to stop yourself from accepting their apology, especially if you still keep in contact with them. After a breakup, you will most likely need someone to fill the void left in your heart and if you still hang around with your ex, you might end up hurting yourself time and time again.

7. You’d Continually Think Of Broken Memories

It’s best to make new memories that has nothing to do with your ex if you have any intention of getting back to happy times. The more you tend to see and meet up with your ex, the more old memories will keep flooding your mind.

8. On And Off Relationship

A lot of the time, when two exes keep in touch, they usually end up getting back together for s*x or companionship. This is mostly because they feel lonely and incomplete and they have a feeling that going back into a relationship with their ex will make them feel complete again. However, if a relationship is not meant to be because of differing opinions and expectations, chances are you may experience an on-off relationship which will likely hurt and leave you worse off than you were.

9. You’re Vulnerable To An Ex’s Touch

You probably had a lot of s*xual chemistry during the course of your relationship but this is restricted the moment the relationship comes to an end. Unfortunately, when there’s a restriction on a particular activity, it tends to become an addiction which makes you crave badly for it than you did before. If you still have feelings for your ex, something as little as a hug or touch will likely amplify s*xual tension which may make you feel attracted and pained each time they touch you.

10. You’d Be Frustrated

Looking at your ex with someone else or staring at pictures of your ex with their new flame can leave you frustrated and annoyed. And no one will understand the way you feel which will make you feel more miserable simply because you decided to stay in touch with your ex.

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Ladies, 7 Signs To Know You Have Expired In The Life Of A Guy

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Gone are the days when romantic affairs are usually ended with one person calling it quit through saying it directly, face to face, that the affair has ended or through a message sent to the other person.

These days, people embark on what I call a ‘Silent Withdrawal‘. As a guy that I am, I perfectly understand the antics that are normally used by guys when they consider a romantic affair to be an ‘expired product’ that is no longer desired.

Below are clear signs ladies should watch out for so that they don’t end up wasting their time still thinking that every thing would become normal again some day wink

1. He becomes too busy: When a guy loves you and he is into you, no amount of work load can prevent him from having quality time with you; except he doesn’t reside in the same town as you. When a guy becomes too busy to share quality time with you, just know that it could be possible that you have expired in his life! You need to re-evaluate your stand, gurl!!!

2. He hardly call like he used to: When a guy doesn’t call you as he used to, you have probably expired in his life! The fact is that his precious air time has been re-directed to another person who his heart desires. You need to dust your ass and move on, gurl! I know it’s painful!

3. He wouldn’t allow you to meet his family members as promised: If he has promised to take you to his parents and other family members previously but now unwilling to do that, it is a very clear sign that you have expired in his life! He must have switched gears and changed plans. The truth is that he doesn’t consider you worthy to be introduced as a wife-to-be!

4. He becomes less generous with his money: No reasonable guy wants to continue investing in the life of someone he doesn’t want to share the future with. Guys normally think it is a waste of resources taking care of the needs of a lady who they are not into. If he has been generous with his cash but now, you can’t even get a torn 10 Naira note from him, even when you can clearly see that he’s financially stable, you should start buckling your shoes to leave!!!

5. He always avoids meeting you: When a guy starts avoiding you, you might have expired! Whenever you say you are coming over, there’s always one excuse you would get why you won’t meet him at home. If you ask him to come over to your place, that’s when he becomes too busy or ‘not in town’.

6. He doesn’t mind taking calls from random girls in your presence: Haven’t you read the hand-writing on the wall? Has he been like this in the past? He’s indirectly telling you that your feeling or opinion doesn’t matter anymore!

7. He doesn’t take you out anymore: Yes! He doesn’t do that because he doesn’t want people to see the both of you together. The more they see both of you together, the more it seems like every thing is working.

Now, I know ladies are very quick to make statements like ‘He doesn’t even know what he wants’. Let me tell you today; that statement is absolutely wrong! That a guy doesn’t cherish you anymore doesn’t mean he doesn’t know what he wants.

He knows what he wants but the fact is that what he wants cannot be seen in you after thorough consideration. It is cannot be your fault too as a lady. If he doesn’t desire you, there somebody out there that does so stop wasting your time and move on with your life!

Happy Sunday to all!!! cool

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Written by:- Rapmoney

10 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Person

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Have you been with someone before and you ask your self “what the hell was I thinking!!”….. Don’t worry much, you’re not the first.

Hear are some 10 signs that shows you’re dating the wrong person.

1.They don’t Listen to you

He/she never listens to you… Whenever you say something they act like its nothing or irrelevant.

2. They are only caring when People are watching

They act like you are their ‘everything’ only when there are eyes watching…. They hold your hands,kiss you because he/she want people around to be impressed.. But when you are alone, n when all those gestures should matter more, he/she doesn’t ‘give you face’

3. He/she Thinks the world revolves around them

If it seems your partner is more interested in how you fit in their world than how they than how they are with your individual needs then you might be dating the wrong person…. He/she expects you to compromise your values to please them but never goes out of their way to satisfy you .

4. You Feel like you are not your self

Do you feel like you have to wear a mask when your with them,like you can’t be your self…Relationships should be fun!… Not an Obligation sad

5. You cannot have a simple conversation with them

You can’t say something without it resulting into a heated argument… Something is wrong oo

6. Hanging out with then is stressful

If spending time with your patner exhausts you,you might be with the wrong person….

Every relationship has tat time when you need to take a break from eachother but it should be an exception not the Norm….

7. You feel you are not Good enough

Tis can only happen if you are dating tat person only because of what he/she has not who he/she is…

8. You cannot imagine your self married to the person

When ever you think about spending the rest of your life with tat person you immediately get paranoid…the very idea grosses you out!

9. There’s no spark in the relationship

No feeling of blood rush when you see tat person….. No stolen moments…then you shouldnt even be on speaking terms with him/her

10. The s*x is Bad or lacks connection

You know there’s a huge difference between having s*x and making love… If you can’t feel the connection when your having s*x… something is wrong… sad

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Some Silly Ways Guys Act When A Lady Turns Them Down

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Some ladies have been warned to be careful with men especially when their proposal has been turned down as some are known to go on a vengeful mission and could be dangerous.

Some Guys can’t take NO for an answer when they want a lady and when they get the NO, they become cruel beings on a revenge mission.

Sometimes, I do categorise those guys as “Immature” buh believe me, most of them are mature enough.

Here are Some Ways Guys Act When A Lady Turns Them Down..

1. Destroying Her Image In Public

He stalk her and does everything possible to spoil her image in public.

Some go on social media to write false things against the lady whom turns the them.

2. He Goes With Classic guys

Simply To Make Her Feel She’s Lost A Loaded Man

He mightn’t be in an excellent connection with those men that are classic, but he’ll mingle with them and speak with them if they are his buddies when he sees the girl around. That is simply to make her feel he mixes with men that are classic.

3. He Acts Like She Does Not Exist

On an ordinary day, when he sees her he smiles and possibly walks towards her, but now he pretends he doesn’t see her even when with his friends and they are pointing at her.

4. He Badmouth Her

To console themselves when a woman turns them down, what most guys do is bad mouth her and talk about stooping low to have asked her out in the very first place. You may hear something similar to “I blame myself to have stooped so low to have inquired such type of girl out in the first instance.” This can be amusing.

5. He Gives Her Telephone Number To His buddy, Who’s great at wooing women.

He gives her telephone number to his friend who’s an experienced toaster, just to punish her

6. He Quits Asking Her Out

Not all men ask a woman out over and over again. When he asks her out, and she refuses, he’ll stop ringing up her. But the funniest thing is the fact that his heart beats in anxiety each time his telephone rings, thinking its her.

7. Envy Overwhelms Him

When she turns him down, he behaves like “Life goes on”. The funniest thing is the fact that, he gets bitter when he sees her with another guy richer and better than him, probably driving a car.

8. He Makes Buddy Along With Her Pals

I do not understand If I am the only one that’s seen this. He makes friends with her close female friends when she turns him down. That is simply to make her jealous

9. He Hangs Around With Other Women

You’ll see him walking with and speaking to a lovely woman whom he’s no intimate relationship with when the lady he was wooing turns down his advances. You are going to watch him holding her hand; this is simply to make her feel he’s got a high-class girl, better than her.

10. Discourage Other Guys From Wooing Her

Only because his advances continues to be turned down, he gives other guys reasons why they need to avoid her, telling them she is ill-mannered and she not worth the pursuit.

NOTE:- If a lady turns you down doesn’t mean you can’t find a suitable Lady better than her.. | Just move on with your lives and stop being immature..

List compiled by: DanceVille

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5 Ways To Know If Your Girlfriend Truly Loves You (A Must Read)

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In Nigeria today, it is very common for guys to be deceived and duped by ladies all in the name of love.

Some ladies don’t actually love a guy, yet they disguised themselves in pretence and claim they love him so as to empty his pocket.

Here are five ways to know if your girlfriend is for real or not.

1. GIVING ATTENTION

A lady who truly loves you will always give you her full attention. She will make you the most Paramount thing in her life. Whenever you call or need her, she will always have time for you. So guys, if your girlfriend is always giving you her full attention, then it means she is for real.

2. PLANS FOR THE FUTURE

A lady who is not just after your money and who truly loves you, will always inquire about your plans for the future so that she can help you in actualizing it. Does she always ask you of what you intend to do after graduating

Has she ever asked you how many kids you would love to have? Has she ever inquired how you would want your wedding to be, and the kind of house you would love to build? If yes, then it means that she wants to be part of your future. And that means she is for real.

3. RARELY ASK FOR MONEY

Does your girl always ask you to give her money, or buy this and that for her? If yes, then something is wrong. But hey, don’t get me wrong please. It’s okay for a lady to demand for something once in a while because we all have needs. But if she demands for things more regularly than often, then she is just after your pocket and not your heart. Because a lady that truly loves you would always advice you to be saving your money for future use.

4. REGULAR VISITS

If your girlfriend is truly in love with you, she will always demand that you visit her regularly or she visits you regularly. She would always be happy to introduce you to her friends, parents and family members, just as she would be happy for you to introduce her to your parents, friends and family members as well. But if she doesn’t like these things, then she is just flirting with you, that’s all.

5. NO KEEPING OF SECRETS

Does your girlfriend always delete the messages in her inbox after she reads them? Is she always scared to answer some certain calls in your presence? Does she hide the names of her toasters and male friends from you? If yes, it obviously means she is cheating on you and that means she is not really in love with you.

A lady that loves you will always open up her deepest secrets to you; secrets that even her best friend and probably her mother are not even aware of. She would tell you everything because she sees you as her soul mate and heart beat, as well as the father of her unborn kids.

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10 Ways Shy Guys Act When They Have A Crush

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Shy guys are pretty hard to figure out, unsurprisingly.They’re shy, so they’re probably also kind of quiet and awkward, not just around you, but around everyone.

It’s just more difficult, because a shy guy isn’t going to tell you how beautiful you look, or just approach you and ask you to go out, on a date.So…is he really shy?

Here are 10 things Shy Guys display that show you’re their crush.

1.Looking At Their Crush, Then Looking Away :This is a sign, because I used to do it back then. The dude repeatedly stared at their crush, then immediately looking away when their crush look at him, this could definitely mean that he likes her. Especially if he acts super weird afterwards, by which he’s avoiding her gaze entirely, walking away or acting like she don’t exist.

2.Chatting With Their Crush On Social Media, But Won’t Talk To Them In Person :This is another tell-tale sign.A lot of shy guys, just don’t feel comfortable talking face-to-face.It’s much easier for them to talk through Social media chats apps or mobile texting..

3.Hangs Around Her,Even If They Doesn’t Initiate Conversation :He pops up everywhere She is, and always sit near her in class, but doesn’t speak to her, it could mean that he’s too shy to make the first move, so he’s hoping she will.He’s purposely putting himself in situations where she can talk to him, so he doesn’t have to do it.Try starting a conversation and see what happens.

4.They’re Different Around Their Crush :Pay attention to how he acts around his friends versus how he acts around her.If he seems talkative around his friend, but nervous and quiet around her, it could mean that he likes her and just doesn’t know how to act.

5.Uncomfortable When Other Guys Talk To Her :There is this feeling of insecurity in his mind that someone else might just sweep her away from him and so he gets all uncomfortable and weird.

6.Stammering While Talking To Their Crush :If his crush start a casual conversation.. see how he reacts to her.He stammers back a reply, while looking around the room but not at his crush, then you know he has an intense crush going..

7.Very Sensitive To A Lady’s Touch : If a lady happens to touch him playfully, or just casually, he might respond as if he got an electric shock.You will see his face go all pink, he might suddenly move away or just overly self-conscious.It just shows your touch means a lot to him.

8.They’re Afraid To Ask For Their Crush’s Number :They are too afraid to ask for their crush’s number, instead they get it from their crush’s friends or from other source, and call her up on some pretext(Usually a pretty lame one).

9.Blushing : They blushed the entire time their crush is talking to them even though they have nothing to be blushing about…”Trying to maintain the going conversation”.

10.Compliments Small Changes To Their Crush’s Appearance :That new hairstyle. That new dress. That new shade of lipstick.Whatever it is their crush discarded or added, he’s likely to make a comment on it.It’s their way of showing their crush..”I notice You”.